Anyone who’s in a relationship knows it’s not always bunnies and rainbows.

Years ago, after being in and out of several longterm relationships and lots of casual dating, I decided I was ready to get serious with someone again.

Searching for love can seem like an endless task. And when it begins to feel like an exhausting, grueling mission we tend to lose our zest for it, don’t we?

From a very young age, my mother taught me not to chase boys. “They will come to you if they like you Julia,” she said. “And don’t ever call them first.”